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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First time MB with a 10 month old girl. Our nanny has been with us for a few months now, and I think she may not love our daughter or babies in general. We have a nanny cam, which she knows about. When I see her read to our daughter or speak to her, it's in a flat tone, like what you'd use for adults or older children. Kind of matter of fact and bored. We have a babysitter who uses the more loving tone, higher pitched and saying stuff like [b]"Ohhhhh, can you find the monkey in the book? Wow, you found him! You are such a good girl!"[/b] Kind of hard to describe here but hopefully folks get what I'm saying.

Is this something that is worth addressing with our nanny, or if we feel like she doesn't love babies, should we just let her go with some severance? I don't know if it's worth talking to her about it, because it's just a personality issue that would be tough to change. I think she could fake a loving tone, but it's unfair to ask her to do that. I don't love other people's babies either and I'm kind of reserved, so I get where she's coming from. But I want my baby to feel warmth from her care giver, and this lady is not very warm with her. I'd appreciate your thoughts. [/quote]

Totally off topic and I apologize for that but I strongly recommend that you and any babysitter stop the "good girl" talk.  Would she be a bad girl if she couldn't find the monkey?  Please never use "good girl" for anything but in general perhaps you and her caregivers could stop commenting on her achievements at all.

Sorry but I was so irked by your example I had to point it out.  [/quote]

What do you mean stop commenting on her achievements? Should they focus on her good looks instead? Absolutely do comment on children's achievements, praise them for their hard work, kindness and perseverance.

OP, I've been a nanny for ten years and I have seen the type of nanny you appear to have. I think this nanny would be perfectly fine for a preschooler and older, someone who doesn't fuss, isn't bothered, is calm and cool and somewhat detached at all times. But you have a baby, babies should be cuddled and loved - and it's really quite easy to find someone who will love your baby, because babies are so easy to love. In your shoes I would slowly start looking for someone else.[/quote]

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