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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a slight modification from a post on the regular DCUM special needs board, but I would really like to get some nanny input as well.

My newly-medicated 6 year old has started to go into these hyperactive "frenzies" - for lack of a better word - around 4-5 pm each day. It's like he just can't control himself. I actually believe that he would like to control himself, although maybe I am naive? It just seems to me like he can't. Much of it is physical -crawling under the table during dinner, jumping on furniture, throwing things. It's not in anger, he is laughing the whole time and being what I would call "silly on steroids." He gets plenty of physical activity so this is not because he has been sitting still all day.

I think this is because the medicine is wearing off and it is a rebound effect. We are working on regulating the meds, but the doctor has suggested that there's no way to completely get rid of this and most families just put up with it, knowing that the behavior is controlled at school, where it is most important.

How do we as a family get through this? I am really worried that our nanny is going to just walk out, it's that bad. I have tried to get home early to help out, but I can't do that every day or even most days. We also have another child who is being subjected to this behavior and the yelling that ensues. Worse, our nanny IS leaving in February to move across the country for a boyfriend, and we are already putting feelers out for a replacement. I cannot imagine that someone would willingly enter into a job in which they have to deal with this. I can't deal with this and he is my own child.

I just don't know what to do, I am beside myself. We pay well, our nanny knows how valued and supported she is, I think we are overall great employers. That is the only thing that makes me think that maybe she will finish out her term and not just say screw it one day and leave. But a new person? No way. I would never take a job like this, no matter how much someone paid me.

What do people in my situation do? 
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1.  I think he should be outside in the backyard, running, building, sliding, and whatever else he loves.  For 1-2 hours, starting at 3:55pm (so it's not a punishment for losing control, just a what is - oops, it's 3:50pm, time to go outside!  That gives him time to come in and have a high protein snack first, then head outside.

2.  Do what the other nanny said.  No yelling, stoic face, no laughing at his antics, no anger at his antics

3.  be really, really honest when you are searching for a nanny.  without that, you'll have a revolving door of nannies.  [/quote]

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