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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She'll be forgotten by your 2 yo soon enough. If it was a full time nanny it would be different, but I wouldn't worry about this.[/quote]

This.  Don't make more of this than it needs to be.  Tell your daughter that Cindy isn't coming this week. Then if/when your daughter asks tell her Cindy doesn't need to come anymore because you get to be with her now ( or grandma, or she gets to go to Miss Suz's house, or whatever.).

Keep it light, minimal and positive.  Your daughter is two and the nanny was oart-time. This is not a traumatic event.

-MB[/quote]
You should study attachment issues a bit.[/quote]

Attachment issues/studies/and concerns apply to the primary caregivers in a child's life.  They are not relevant when talking about short term, part time caregivers such as babysitters, nannies, daycare providers, teachers, etc...  They may be relevant when a close family member or longterm, full-time nanny abruptly departs from a child's life but that is not at all what the OP is describing.  She has a part-time, barely adequate, short-term caregiver whom she wishes to let go.  There will be zero harm done to a 2 yr old child's emotional development.  The exception would be if the mother (or other primary caregiver) is so stressed and anxious about the childcare situation that she/he is not parenting well.  Which argues for letting the nanny go even sooner, without a second thought.

You should become a parent - you would see the difference immediately.[/quote]

Children can be affected by even part-time caregivers - anyone who they are bonded with.  Just take the advice wisely given above (speak well of nanny and often at first then slowly mention her less and less - always stress that the nanny loved her).  [/quote]

Usually the caregivers are far more "bonded" than the kids.   I grew up with nannies.  Don't remember any, don't care.  Your primary relationships are with your parents.  That is he important bond.[/quote]

You have posted this before, PP, and I have posted this response:  I named my daughter after my nanny.  She was an extremely important bond for me even though I was extremely close to my parents.

Perhaps because you had "nannies" rather than one nanny?

To OP:  I echo all of the above advice about respecting your child's relationship with this woman and letting the relationship fade gently.  [/quote]

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