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[quote=Anonymous]I've been working with this family for 3 years, and started worrying about their eldest child's behavior when he was only 2 1/2 (shortly after starting.) He's tried to hit me from that age, very occasionally at first, but from the beginning he showed a lot of rage/anger that didn't seem normal and was pretty concerning. I mentioned this to the parents, but didn't feel it was my place to say much else.

Fast forward to 3 years later, and I'm at my wits end with this child and quite honestly don't understand how I'm still here. I haven't left because the pay and benefits are outstanding, the parents are lovely, and I have a great strong bond with their other two younger children. The oldest is now constantly angry, and when anyone tries to get him to do something or just makes him mad he acts out violently. He hits his brother daily, hits his parents, hits me, and hits kids at school. He's in kindergarten now but he's been to three different schools and gotten complaints of hitting and biting from every one. Every morning he screams and kicks on the floor because he doesn't want to get dressed and go to school. No matter how nicely or firmly I talk to him he reacts the same. I've tried everything. I had to physically pull him downstairs and into the van, with him trying to scratch and kick and bite me the whole time, and I hurt my arm doing it. I can't do this anymore. He calls me stupid, throws things at me, says he hates me, and says every other mean thing he can think of at this age, all over something as minor as getting dressed, or giving him a lunch he doesn't like, or me telling him for the thousandth time it's not ok to hit his brother.

The parents know full well this has been going on when I'm there and have been trying different tactics and parenting books. A few days ago I finally came out and said something to the parents again, after he attacked me again and left a visible scratch on my arm. I told them I really think he might need a professional evaluation. They apologized over and over and agreed, said they have been thinking the same thing and now that I said that they've agreed to do it thankfully.

My question is this: I know counseling isn't going to do any kind of 180 with this kid. What would you do? I was placed in this job through an agency. I've been thinking about getting back in contact with them and either asking for advice, or for them to finally place me with a new family. [/quote]

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