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[quote=Anonymous]DD's nanny has been with us for three months.  Nanny is with us on a weeklong trip to my hometown.  She doesn't know my hometown so I tell her every day where she should take DD.  She watched DD from 8 to 11:30 this morning and I asked her to take DD to the local park/playground.  I was going to stay home, but popped out to the dollar store.  I saw them come in to the dollar store a little after 11, didn't say hello (didn't want to make DD fussy) but nanny might have seen me.  When I got back home, I asked what they had been up to and nanny replied that they had been at the park until 9 (so about 45 minutes), then at this plaza for a little over two hours because "it got hot".

This is unsettling in multiple ways.  First, nanny always (or so I believed) texts me to tell me where she and DD are, at least for any significant amount of time.  She didn't today.  Second, we're out of town.  She doesn't know the area and it's not okay for her to decide on her own to take DD someplace I never suggested, especially someplace random like this plaza.  Third, this plaza is not a suitable place to hang out with a two year old other than to eat; it's a large parking lot bordered by a few restaurants and this one store.

My gut tells me that nanny didn't plan to tell me about their plaza outing because then she would have texted me about it.  Either she saw me or my car (which was parked by the store entrance) or when she saw I wasn't home, she got nervous and thought I might have seen her.  My guess is nanny went to the plaza to enjoy a cup of coffee, which is fine for 30 minutes, not two hours!  BTW I don't buy the "we left the park because it was too hot" story.  It was in the low 70s at 9 a.m.  I asked nanny to take DD to the same park/playground yesterday afternoon when it was in the low/mid 80s.  Was it not too hot then??  Did she maybe take DD somewhere else then, too, and I don't know about it??

My bigger fear is what else does she keep from me?  I know she's the kind of person to tell me half-truths, but they were always for little things like why she didn't feed DD any veggies for dinner.  These bothered me, too, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt that she wouldn't do something big against my wishes.  I could chalk up her taking DD to the plaza for two hours as bad judgment, but the fact she didn't text me tells me she meant to keep it from me, which means she knew it was wrong.

She's supposed to leave us in a couple months (give or take) as this was always meant to be a temporary stint.  But even two (or possibly more) months feel long when you've lost trust in someone caring for your young child with limited verbal skills.  I have a sense of what to do, but would like to hear what others think.[/quote]

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