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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We purchased an extra car. Not a great resolution, but I wanted an AP and wanted her to be happy staying.

If you don't live very close to public transportation and you don't have a car you might have a hard time finding someone or keeping them.

Would you stay at your home for a year without unlimited access to a car? [/quote]

[b]I would if that was the situation I had been offered and I had accepted[/b]- and furthermore I would appreciate that my HM was asking around to other HF to find out how they handle it in a way that works for both them and the AP.  I would think "how considerate" - I really lucked out with this HF. [/quote]

In a new country that you didn't know much about? I really wonder how grateful you would be ... Could be someone accepts not really understanding the distances and expense involved in Uber/public transportation.

If you really can't regularly provide a car, and you don't live in a walkable/easy bus or metro area, then you need to be very, very clear about that, or you're going to do all of this work and end up in rematch.[/quote]

+1 OP, You are asking what is reasonable. This makes me think that you were not clear in the matching process about your AP's access to the car. Otherwise, you would have discussed it with your AP already and would not have to ask this question now. Our AP's friends all have access to a car. They sometimes take turns and carpool for longer trips on the weekend, but most of the time, they just drive. And we live 5min away from a Ride On bus.
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Actually I was very clear that there were 2 vehicles and 3 adults to share them.  I just want to exceed her expectation of possibly never having a car in the morning and early afternoon, and think about what would be a typical number of outings an AP would take and how often they would just spend their morning/early afternoon at home anyway.  [/quote]

I am sorry, OP. But for me "2 vehicles and 3 adults to share them" does not translates to the expectation of being stuck in your home every weekday until you get home from work. It does not sound like you were clear at all, which is why you are sweating it now.
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I'm not sweating anything, but keep trying! Behind your little keyboard you are so all-knowing and so powerful!!  You really sniffed that one you crafty little detective! I am very satisfied with my communications and if the AP wants to leave over it, then so be it.  
When I see the type of HF we are compared to from the things they post here,  I realize every day how our AP really won the lottery.  Living with a smarty pants like you,  who makes assumptions with essentially no information and sees ill intent when clearly a person is trying to be considerate... now that kind of environment would have me using that car every second of the day.  Maybe that is why your APs find the car so important- they don't actually want to be near you or your house. [/quote]

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