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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an MB.  Here's what I would want to know/hope to hear:

"I need to talk to you about something.  I anticipate needing a bit of time off in coming weeks to attend to some dental issues for myself, and to help my sister who is not well.  I will probably need 2 -3 dental appointments, and then perhaps one to two chunks of time off each week for the next X weeks to take my sister to medical appointments.  I think that i should be able to schedule all of these appointments so I can tell you which blocks I'll need (rather than having this be last minute leave) and I will do whatever I can to find appointments outside my regular hours.  I wanted to be really upfront with you about this because i really value this job and I expect this to be a temporary situation.  If there is any way I can schedule the time I need in a way that is the least problematic for you I will absolutely do so.  So I was hoping we could talk it through a bit.  I want to assure you that none of this will impact my ability to do my job well while I am here, or my long term commitment to your family."

So what's important for your employer to hear is that this can be planned leave, that you'll minimize your time off as much as possible and that this is only for a short period.

With any luck your employer will have some flexibility to work with you and be supportive.

As someone who has people w/ serious mental illness in my family also, I would caution you to be sure that you don't jeopardize your job or well-being in service to your sister.  What you're describing is not something that is likely to go away, be finite in nature, or be something you can fully support on your own.  Please be sure to take care of yourself (which means maintaining solid, stable employment so you can sleep at night) throughout your sister's ordeal.

If this does become something where you need multiple chunks of time off during the day, for ongoing weeks or months, then you will probably face some tough choices.  I would absolutely try to support our nanny for something like this for a finite period of time, but what is possible for me for a few weeks, or over the summer, would definitely not be sustainable on a long-term basis.  So think that through before you make the ask, and keep it in mind if things don't settle down fairly quickly.

Good luck OP.  It sounds like a tough time.  I wish you and your family well.
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+1. Your goal should be to set up help for your sister so that you can back away from direct care. [/quote]

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