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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]About 3 weeks into our APs arrival I basically "forced" her to go out.  It is just not healthy to stay in HP house 24/7.  Fast forward 10 months and she is always out...and happy.  The way I see it, no young adult was ever sitting in her home country thinking "I want to be an AP so I can hang out with 40 year olds all day and night" :roll:   So yes, not physically of course, but I verbally (nicely) make them go out.  My handbook rule is that they must attend the first 3 months of cluster meetings too.  [/quote]
It worked for your AP, who needed a nudge to put herself out there socially, but some APs simply have no desire to make new friends.  Mine thought the other APs were not sophisticated enough or interesting enough for her, so she sat at home all day.[/quote]

NP here. I cannot imagine that there are APs there who "have no desire to make new friends." I may be naive. But I am thinking that if these young women decide to leave their home country for a year, they probably like to travel, and make new friends. They sure are not doing it for the money. So a hope that a little bit of encouragement would go a long way.

We've had three great AP so far. It took them all about a month to find friends, but we were also helping. We encouraged them to go to the local language group that meets once a week. We actually took them there the first time to make sure they felt comfortable. We emphasize the "adventure" aspect of the program during the matching. And when I email/text an AP after we matched, but before they arrive, I tell them about all the fun things that our current AP is doing. So far, it worked. Or we just got lucky.[/quote]

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