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[quote=Anonymous]I've been asking my NF for months to baby proof the kitchen. Little one is 13 months and getting into everything, but is obsessed with the cabinet containing dishwashing detergents and ant traps, and the drawer containing several boxes of Ziploc bags just waiting to be pulled out one by one. Two weeks ago, DB showed me their childproof latches for securing the kitchen cabinets and drawers (saved from when their oldest was a toddler). He said he will need to use a drill to make holes for the screws to secure the latches, and asked me to "use the latches and a pencil to mark where the holes need to be drilled on the drawers and cabinets." I like to be as helpful as possible, and have agreed (in my contract) to help with any child related task, so I agreed.

But, I've come to realize that I'm just not comfortable with this task. I've never done anything like this before. I'm worried that I'll do it wrong and the latches won't work or DB will end up having to drill multiple holes in their beautiful new cabinets and drawers (they remodeled their kitchen last year). DB already has done this once before, and I've never done anything like this before; the closest I've come is installing simple over the doorknob childproof locks or helping my fiancé assemble ikea furniture at home. I might feel differently if DB took a little more time to show me exactly how to do it properly, but he asked very quickly, in passing, and he works long hours so he's almost always running out the door when I arrive and rarely arrives home before MB relieves me. I also might feel a little differently if I was hired as a household manager, and paid as such, but I'm just their nanny, and paid as such, and they have already been stretching my job duties beyond what was explicitly agreed to during contract negotiations, and well beyond what any of my previous NFs asked of me (and, until this particular project, I have always been eager to help), so I'm inclined to draw a line in the sand now before things get further out of hand.

I have never said no to anything they've asked of me before, and I don't want it to come off like I'm not being a team player. I also feel bad that I agreed to do it, and am now going back on that. I want to text DB about it, basically just apologize and explain that while I want to help, I've never done this sort of thing before and I don't feel comfortable doing it. I'd bring it up in person but I just don't get the chance to speak with him in person often.

What do you think, is it reasonable to text DB and explain I'm not comfortable with this task? Or is it better to instead just ask him to give me more guidance on how exactly to do it so I can feel more comfortable completing the task? Is a text good enough or should I wait to speak with him in person? I could also bring it up to MB, but I feel like since DB is the one who asked me then he is the one I should discuss this with.

Thanks for your advice. [/quote]

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