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[quote=Anonymous]He's six.  He's at the stage where he is professionally self-centered and also an expert manipulator.

Stop caring what he thinks, don't take it personally or get your feelings hurt.  Do be consistent, calm, non-reactive, fun, and caring.  Keep to schedules, maintain limits, take good care of him, and don't worry about being liked.

I have 5 1/2 year old twins, one of whom ended Mother's Day by saying "I hate Mommy" because she didn't get what she wanted.  So be it.  I'm her mom, not her friend.

The same principle applies to nannying - you are the adult in charge, not the friend.  I don't want my kids manipulating their nanny emotionally, I want a nanny who doesn't care about the noise they make around things they want, but who absolutely makes sure their world is safe, consistent, and calm.  I know that can be hard - my kids hurt my feelings also.  But when my attitude is unflappable and unemotional I get MUCH better behavior from them.  The same will likely be true for you.  And in the long run the boy will be every bit as attached to the grown-up with whom he feels safe and loved, as is he to anyone who is fun and gives him whatever he wants (if not more - though he may not admit it.)

Don't try to be fun and popular.  Try to be the one he turns to when he's hurt.  And don't look to a six year old to make you feel cared for - that's what friends and family are for - not a child.[/quote]

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