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[quote=Anonymous]I am the OP here:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/333757.page

As mentioned in that thread, our nanny has an attitude problem.  What it comes down to is that when something doesn't go her way or upsets her, she speaks to me very rudely.  What she's done the last couple times we had a disagreement is she will give me a piece of her mind and when it's my turn to respond, she will interrupt me then try to cut the conversation short without letting me finish.  She also has tried to lay blame with me when it was clearly not my fault, implies that I misspoke or am misremembering when the mistake was clearly hers.  Example: she told me the day of that she was going to leave an hour early for an appointment.  I said no, I have an appointment and cannot relieve you of DC that early.  (Context is that hers is a recurring appointment that happens only on Thursdays, BUT on an infrequent and irregular schedule, like anywhere from 3-6 weeks apart.  She told me about it when I hired her and said that she would notify me in advance of any given appointment.)  Her immediate reaction was to tell me in a challenging tone "Mary, I AM leaving an hour early today."  I, taken aback, reiterate no, you cannot, you are supposed to give me advance notice so I can plan around it.  She immediately retorts "Why did you plan your appointment on a Thursday evening?!?  You KNOW I have this appointment on Thursdays!!"  I then reminded her that she had a responsibility to give me advance notice whereas I did not have one to check with her before I make my appointments.  During this conversation, she interrupted me mid-sentence several times, once to say "I'm done talking about this" when clearly I wasn't.

We just had another heated conversation tonight that went much the same way, but on a different subject, and while I would love nothing more than to be DONE with her, I just don't have much hope of finding a temp nanny.  If I am going to keep her on, I feel like I cannot let her rudeness go answered, yet at the same time, I don't think I will get through to her.  On some level, she must feel her behavior is justified and/or reasonable because if she didn't, she would apologize which she has NEVER done.  In the prior argument about leaving work early, the way it was resolved was I let her leave 30 minutes early (I was able to move my appointment a little earlier and it finished early) and while she was very effusive in her thanks, she never apologized for her behavior.  Now, I realize that I should not have let it go then the result of which is that the rude behavior has come back.  I would really appreciate some advice on what I should say to her tomorrow.  [/quote]

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