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[quote=Anonymous]I am the HM who apparently "sucks as a human."  I speak English, French, and German.  Just as APs get find it rude and often ask for rematch when their HFs speak a language they don't understand in front of them (note how many APs come through rematch who complain that their HFs speak Chinese or Hebrew in front of them when they don't speak those languages), I consider it impolite for our APs to chat away in their native language without regard to others when they are WITH US and have a friend there.  And I am clear about that in matching, so anyone who thinks that this means I "suck as a human" can choose another family (hasn't ever happened in ten years of hosting).

I speak German so I can understand most of what our APs are saying when they speak to their friends in German, but this is still exclusionary to others in my family and also is outside the spirit of the program WHEN THEY ARE SPENDING TIME WITH US.  I could not care less what they speak when they are with their friends in any other room of the house or anywhere else, but in OUR KITCHEN WITH US and in OUR CAR WITH US, they should speak the language our family all speaks.  That's called manners.  It's called perspective-taking.  It's called being a person who is acting like a member of the family, when the family happens to speak English.

Good Lord, the hyperbole.  If I "suck as a member of the human race" because I ask for basic good manners, what language do you use for people who actually harm or kill people?[/quote]

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