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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you take them to practices?  If so, one each per season is plenty.  To the MB, we aren't talking about what the parents require but about the relationship with the kids.  Whether or not you care about the nanny, she may be important to your kids and they may value having her present in their lives beyond the scope of a paycheck.[/quote]

If the nanny I employed showed up at my kids' events uninvited and outside of their working hours that would be weird and uncomfortable. I care about our childrens' nanny, and it's unclear why you extrapolated otherwise. [/quote]

Op here. I'm a live in nanny so I wouldn't just be showing up. I would be riding in the car with the family to the event. I go to all other events that the children have, most are in the evening during the week so I just hop in the car right along with everyone else after I get off work or I drive the children myself and we meet the parents.

Friday evening I was asked by both children if I would be attending their games this season. It made me uncomfortable as I don't want to attend every game as it would take up 4-5 hours of my Saturday and my Sunday. Potentially 10 hours each weekend. I'm hoping to strike a balance that everyone is happy with. I do want to see their games , just not all of them.[/quote]

I understand that you have your own relationship with the children, and that these are older children. However, this is something your MB and DB should help with. Please talk to them. They need to explain your place in the household to the children, and help them to understand that you are not another family member, and that, in fact, you need time for your own life and family.

They and you need to think of kind ways to explain this, but it sounds like you have all been acting more like you're an au pair or older sister, who is expected to be part of the family at all times. I am sure that has fostered a comfortable and loving relationship, but this is one of those instances where the "job" nature of the relationship needs to be accepted by everyone, including the children.

If the parents are unwilling to explain the employer/employee nature of your presence to the children, and therefore expect you to just kind of tell them that you don't want to go to their games, that would be really shitty of them, and would make me start to rethink how good this relationship really is.[/quote]

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