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I would love to see your research on this.  What I have read and experienced shows that in circumstances like ours, the primary attachment figure is the one who is there consistently.  For young children, there is no quality time, only quantity.  In a few years that will shift and I will be the secondary attachment figure and eventually fade into the background completely. But I've seen no evidence that I am overstating my importance to the kids during this (admittedly brief) stage of life.  My employers know that they cannot work these jobs and be a [b]stable figure[/b] for their young children, which is why they choose to have so much childcare from one consistent person rather than daycare and part-time nanny or something similar.[/quote]

You are using the wrong definition of stable to try to make your point. But, it's incredibly arrogant of you to suggest that because parents work, they can't provide a "stable" environment for their kids. I was a nanny for over 10 years and regardless of how many hours the parents worked, the kids always chose their parents over me. There were a few times when the child would need something (they got hurt, needed help with a toy, etc.) and they would come to me, but that was only b/c I was the closer (proximity) to them. If I steered them back towards their parents, they would always run to them.

Parents can work and still provide a loving and safe environment for their kids. [/quote]

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