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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PS, I am sure some parents will come on to say that I am not the primary attachment figure, I am just the help.  I believe that if parents and nanny spend a roughly similar amount of time with the kids, then that is true.  But at some point the scale tips.  We are way past that point.  I am with them about 70% of waking hours, including weekend time.  I take my two weeks of vacation each year, but that parents travel 4-6 weeks a year for work.  They are loving, involved parents but with their work schedules they are definitely the secondary attachment figures at this point.[/quote]

Hate to tell you this but a parent is alway a parent.  You are overthinking the kids attachment to you.[/quote]

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I would love to see your research on this.  What I have read and experienced shows that in circumstances like ours, the primary attachment figure is the one who is there consistently.  For young children, there is no quality time, only quantity.  In a few years that will shift and I will be the secondary attachment figure and eventually fade into the background completely. But I've seen no evidence that I am overstating my importance to the kids during this (admittedly brief) stage of life.  My employers know that they cannot work these jobs and be a stable figure for their young children, which is why they choose to have so much childcare from one consistent person rather than daycare and part-time nanny or something similar.[/quote]

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