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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to chill out.  Do not touch/yell at other people's kids just because you have some kind of overwrought emotional response.  I love my charges too, but it is my job to be the adult and model appropriate conflict resolution.[/quote]

Telling someone with a subconscious reaction to "chill out" is akin to telling a drowning man to "swim!".

I would absolutely grab another kid's hand to stop him from hitting mine!  I would hate for you to be my kid's nanny and "model" behavior while some bigger kid is pummeling my baby!

Love you, OP!  I want you to have my kid's back.  [/quote]

So you would prefer your nanny yell and grab other people's kids vs. react calmly?  I am not talking about ignoring.  What I would do in that scenario is to put myself physically between the kids, or move my child away a safe distance and state clearly to the other kid, "Please move away from him."  As a result my kids aren't learning how to bully others.

As for her "subconcious reaction," as I say to my kids, "you can't control your feelings, but I expect you to control how to show your feelings."  If my 7yo charge can grasp the difference between emotions and actions, I don't think it's too much to ask of an adult.[/quote]

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