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[quote=Anonymous]I recommend against it. I am a nanny myself. I have worked with several families in my career who told me their previous nanny brought her own child and it did not go well. In one case, neighbors observed the nanny at a playground engaging her own child while ignoring her charge completely (literally telling her charge to "play over there, we are playing here now" even when the child, a toddler, was crying). In another case, the nanny family's child kept getting bruises, and nanny kept saying "she fell." MB installed cameras and soon found out it was the nanny's child who kept hitting and pushing the charge (who was only a couple months older than the nanny family's child, but was physically a lot bigger than her).

I have also personally observed nannies in play groups and at parks who bring their own child as well. And I do notice that even the best of them, maybe unwittingly, favor their own child. Things like, for example, if the nanny sees both kids arguing over the same toy, I've seen the nanny give it to her own child first and tell her charge to wait her turn (even when it's unclear who had it first, or in at least one instance I'm pretty sure the charge had it first); I've never seen that happen the other way around (giving to charge first). Or just spending a little more time directly engaging with their own child instead of their charge. Little things, maybe, but ultimately less than ideal for someone who is being paid good money to care for your child.

I agree that it is possible to find a nanny who is so professional that she is able to overcome any natural maternal bias when it comes to caring for other children alongside her own, but in my personal experience that seems to be the exception. IMO, you are MUCH better off finding another family to nanny share with and then finding a nanny without her own child in tow. [/quote]

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