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[quote=Anonymous]I think one of the most important issues is the PARENTS.  Are the parents of the other infant interested in getting the babies on the same (or very similar) schedule?  Are you?  If both infant parents are adamant that their child's schedule must rule, then it will be a no-win for the nanny and one infant parent will be unhappy, always.  Parents of twins are absolutely told to get their infants on the same schedule, or they will be doing nothing but feeding and changing all day long.  A nanny with two 3 month olds  is going to need to get them on the same schedule so she has some hope of getting them to nap, get outside, be fed when hungry, blah blah.

BUT...  as a parent of an infant whose baby is in a share with an 18 month old, what will you want when that baby is 2 years old, no longer takes a morning nap and the toddler's parents want that child outside for either a  music class or just at the playground/back yard for an hour, right when your baby needs his/her AM nap?  This is the absolute scenario for every parent with 2 children close in age, it's real.  SO: are you comfortable having your baby take a morning nap in the stroller or in the bjorn on the go?  Or will you insist your baby is home in a crib sleeping while the toddler languishes in the house for 4 hours on a beautiful day, then has lunch and sleeps all afternoon (which is a toddler's schedule, up in AM, lunch at 12 noon-ish, sleeps 12:30-3:30pm-ish).....

I think with a share you need to be reallly able and willing to work with the other parents, because your nanny will need to meet both parents' needs, desires, wants, as well as those for both children.  So if the two sets of parents are too far apart, it just can't work.

I think both can work for different reasons, but only if the parents are flexible and want and willing to make it work, and that you find a nanny who is comfortable with the scenario.  [/quote]

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