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[quote=Anonymous]I've been with my current NF for about six months, and I just don't like the job.  It's not a good fit.  I'm working with two parents who WFH 50% of the time and a Grandmother who is there all day everyday (watching the 2-year-old).  I was hired to care for newborn baby and do "light housekeeping" which has quickly become just a glorified housekeeping positioned while also keeping a baby alive.  I'm pretty unhappy, but limited on options in my area.

I really haven't bonded with the children, even the infant.  This is unusual for me, in my last positions I absolutely loved and adored by charges.  I attribute this challenge to being unhappy about various circumstances.  I have little autonomy and am greeted with passive-aggressive comments throughout the day from Grandma.  I have a pleothra of chores to complete each day which makes me feel like I don't get adequate time with baby (now 3 months).  The older boy, 5, is in Kindergarten but I have him for a bit in the afternoons and on days off.  He has so many wonderful attributes, sensitive, intelligent, great critical thinking skills, but when he is around his parents or grandmother he becomes the most unlikable child I've ever known.  Super entitled, demanding and whiny.  It's come down to the point where I dread being around him, which makes me feel pretty awful.  When I do have the occasional one on one time with him, he's a fairly fun child and we have a good time.  It's rare.

I also left the BEST nanny position right before I moved and started working with current NF.  I loved my charges (twin girls) and have had some pretty intense bouts of guilt and grief about leaving them and their family.  I find myself comparing the two families more often than not, which makes me pretty miserable.

I just feel like a shitty nanny for not being able to bond.  I'm afraid this will negatively affect the kiddos.  I finish this position in May, so will just stick it out but I'm overall very unhappy.  Missing my old NF tons.[/quote]

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