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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]she cried and said she was afraid to eat anything other than bread in our house, when the truth is that we have always told her that she can eat anything in the kitchen-- but SHE'S TOO LAZY TO MAKE ANYTHING OTHER THAN TOAST. [/quote]

Not saying she isn't lying, but... she says she is "afraid to eat" not that you told her she wasn't allowed to eat anything else. 
Being afraid can mean that she is afraid to get in trouble for taking something she is not supposed to (do you ever come home from shopping and tell her she can't eat x because it's for lunch tomorrow or y because it's for the kids or z because it's your favorite?), for breaking something or getting something dirty. She might also be afraid of you commenting on or judging what she eats or how she prepares it (did you ever comment on previous AP breaking kitchen appliances or eating like a pig or spending too much of your money on food?). She might generally feel uncomfortable in your home / family and not enjoy spending time in the kitchen when you are around or eating around you. 
If your relationship has been as strained as it sounds (sliding a gc under a door for Christmas instead of having your AP join your Christmas celebrations or at least knocking at her door, handing it to her and wishing her a Merry Christmas is not the most mature behaviour, no matter how horrible your relationship is) her not feeling comfortable being around you, taking anything of yours or using anything around your house for herself can easily lead to her being afraid to eat anything. To her, it might well be that eating only bread is the minimum she feels she can live on.

Have you ever tried to see it in the "she is too afraid to eat anything in our house so she lives off bread instead of nutritous meals" rather than the "SHE'S TOO LAZY TO MAKE ANYTHING OTHER" light? Have you invited her to join you for family dinners? Sunday breakfast? When you have seen her eat only toast, have you asked to to sit down with you for lunch and share what the rest of the family is having?

With the little information you are giving, I have to agree with 8:00 - I can well see a LCC siding with her. She might be a horrible AP (or maybe only not the right AP for your family) but just the gc incident doesn't make you look like a great HP either.

Yes, unless she endangered your children or stole your tv you will be expected to house her.
Actually, in this case if I was your AP I would be begging the LCC to put me up. It doesn't sound as if her living with you during rematch will be pleasant for either side. You aren't comfortable enough to look her in the face to give her a Christmas present (!!!), she isn't comfortable enough around you to eat (which IS a basic human need). I really don't think that is a good combination.[/quote]

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