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[quote=Anonymous]Our nanny started with us two months ago in mid-October and so far, she has shown up late for the following reasons:

1.  Received letter from Immigration saying she sent in wrong form.  She had to go to lawyer's office to get new form, fill out & mail in.  2 hours late.

2.  Ran late checking out an apartment to move into.  30 minutes late.

3.  Mistakenly bought return plane ticket for a Monday (work day) instead of Sunday.  4.5 hours late.

4.  Her start time one day was a few hours earlier than usual (we planned this a week in advance).  I reconfirmed with her the start time on the night before and she had a brain fart and thought I said a time 15 minutes later.  15 minutes late.

FYI I am the OP of this thread re: her daily lateness:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/329805.page

Also I should mention that she starts work at 1:30 p.m. four days a week & in the morning one day a week so she has most mornings to take care of personal matters.

At our first review last week, I brought up her daily tardiness and she's been on time the past two days.  I did not bring up her excessive lateness at the review because all of the reasons were of a nonrecurring nature and I had wanted to focus on her daily lateness and one other issue.  Today, she texted me at 8:30 a.m. saying she had eaten something bad for dinner the night before, vomited this morning and therefore could not come in today at her 1:30 p.m. start time  If she didn't have all of her other issues I enumerated above, I would not even stop to think about her taking a sick day.  But in the larger picture, it feels like her threshold for not coming in to work (or being late) is much lower than what I think is right.  In her shoes, if I puked in the morning and I didn't go to work until the afternoon, I would still try to go to work.  I would let my boss know my situation and the possibility that I might not be coming in if I felt truly horribly and that she should feel free to find someone to fill in.  If she didn't find someone else, I would go in even if I weren't 100% so long as I wasn't truly horribly sick.  As to the immigration situation, I understand she felt stressed and that she needed to mail off the form ASAP, but it did not have to be done that day.  She could have come in to work on time, then finished it off the next morning (since she wasn't working) instead of being late to work trying to get it wrapped up that day.  She in fact did not mail the letter for two days.

Anyway, I'm wondering how to deal with the situation today.  She is entitled to five paid sick days and two weeks' paid vacation under the contract, but fyi she still has not signed it...!  I want to maintain a good relationship with her, but I feel like I need to be firm with her, too.  I just don't know if today is the right time.  I feel like I should tell her she should try to come in to work today if she can, but this might really upset her.  Also, I've been paying her for all the time she has been late (the one time she came 4.5 hours late, one of her friends/fellow nanny filled in so I paid our nanny who paid her friend) even though technically, she is not entitled to paid personal time outside of actual vacation and sick time and in any case, she hasn't accrued any.  I think I need to stop this, too.

Sorry if my post is rambling and long, trying to write in a hurry.  I would really appreciate some thoughts on my situation.  Thanks![/quote]

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