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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the more important part is to consider why these gifts make you uncomfortable. Is it because it emphasizes the fact that you are an employee? Do you prefer a more "equal professional" or "equal family"-type relationship with your bosses?

No one expects you to reciprocate; they aren't friends or family in that sense. They are your employers, trying to spread the wealth a little bit, and to make you feel good about working for them while demonstrating that they appreciate you.

If you can articulate to yourself why the gifts make you uncomfortable, then you can decide whether the answer is to accept them graciously or to explain your discomfort to your bosses.[/quote]

I was raised with a big emphasis on paying your own way and that hard work is a moral value.  It makes me uncomfortable to be given something I haven't earned.  I do give them gifts but always "from the kids" something that we make together or assembled from photos or that sort of thing.  [/quote]

You've earned their good will and gratitude, and they want to show it in a way that will actually benefit you tangibly. I understand the idea of "earning your way," but who decided that nannies who work their tails off get $17/hr, and executives make many times that? Or that nannies who don't work their tails off, and cut corners, and are lazy, still get $17/hr? You are working; they are not handing out charity -- it's recognition of a job well done, and/or of personal affection.[/quote]

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