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[quote=Anonymous]I had an excellent experience as a nanny with a WAHM but I realize we seem to be the exception rather than the rule. I was with them for 4 years. The kids (twins) were 16 months old when I started. Mom had an office off of the kitchen. Here are the things that made our situation successful:
- Mom and I genuinely liked each other. This is important. When you are a nanny for a WAHM, it feels a bit like a roommate situation. If you don't like each other it's going to be difficult. 
- Our parenting styles were similar. I wasn't worried about her hearing me discipline the kids because I knew it was what she would do in the situation. She also didn't step in and override my discipline. 
- Mom let me be in charge when I was there and did not undermine me. This is key. The girls knew that when I was there, Mom was working and I was in charge. She would often eat lunch with us or come say hi when she had a break, but if the girls wanted to know if they could do something or have something, she always told them to ask me. 
- Mom didn't swoop in and save the day if she heard one of them crying. She let me handle it. I'm sure this wasn't easy but it was necessary for the girls to bond with me. If she always rushed in when they cried, they'd want her to come every time. 
- Mom and I were consistent with boundaries. The girls knew they were not allowed in Mom's office while she was working. They grew up understanding that Mom was working and they could not bother her. The consistency was important because it gave us structure. It would have been difficult if half the time Mom let them come in and give hugs and kisses while she was working snd the other times she said no. 
- Mom and I had open communication. If something wasn't working for one of us, it was addressed. 
- I was able to use their car and leave the house with the girls. It took a few months to build that trust. In the beginning, I only left the house to take them for walks to the park. Once Mom felt comfortable, she started letting me plan outings. At first we would specify exactly where I was going and when I'd be back but once I'd been with them a while, we would come and go as I pleased. I'd leave a note or send a text telling her where we were going.

We had our occasional issues but we worked really well together. I left the job 3 years ago when they started school and I've remained close with them. They are like a second family to me. [/quote]

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