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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is in your contract? 
[b]These should have been brought up during negotiations. [/b]

Try to have a sit down with your nanny, explain in a professional manner (not other nanny did xyz why can't you), all of you (you nanny and so) come up with what works for all of you. Make sure you revise the contract for anything changed. And remember as your LO yet so older, the nanny will have more free time (as lo gets to be more independent), so it's good to always have open communication with each other on expectations and future expectations.

You all are a team, you all are raising a tiny human, each of you brings an important role into your child's life. 
You hired her for a reason, what were those reasons? Do they still hold true? [/quote]

The problem is that FTMs (I was one) don't know what we need. We don't know how little time we'll have with our kids after work. I mean, we can figure it out in minutes, but we don't know yet what it feels like to be doing laundry or chopping veggies instead of cuddling on the sofa or playing cars.

We are also intimidated by becoming employers, and we want our first choice nanny to choose us, so we try to design the most attractive job possible (best compensation with fewest outside duties). We also genuinely want the main focus to be on our child.

But pretty quickly we realize just how much we have to do when we're with our child, and we start to realize that in an 8-9 hour day, it's reasonable to aske someone else to do some small subset of those household tasks so that we can have a taste of "only focusing on our child," too.

Then we have the OP's problem: she could hire someone else, probably at the exact same rate, who would take on these tasks if she doesn't ask for too much, or she can try to get her current nanny to do them for a raise. The likelihood anyone is going to want to take on substantially more work for just $1-2 more per hour is slim, so now she's going to have to way overpay, and possibly still end up with a resentful nanny.

OP, if you can wait until the end of your first contract year, I would let the nanny know that you are redesigning the job to include these tasks. If she wants to take them on, you would love to hire her again for the next year at whatever the raise was you would have given her anyway. If she is not interested, tell her you will recommend her highly as an infant nanny and move on.[/quote]

Our contract is up next March. I don't think I can wait that long to bring this up. I'll do exactly what you mention though and see what she says. And literally, as a FTM, I could have written this post myself. I didn't want to deal with nanny burnout or resentment, which is why I naively streamlined her responsibilities thinking that I wouldn't need more. Well, ya live and learn! [/quote]

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