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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not be involved at all the first few days. It is vital. Otherwise this won't work. [/quote]

I call utter BS on this.  Lots of parents start a new nanny with their babies while the mom is still on maternity leave and those nanny relationships turn out just fine!  When my daughter was a baby, I would always have the sitter come at least once while I was home so my daughter could get used to this new person with the comfort of my presence and she was always just fine.  Your babies are used to you and it must be jarring for them to be cared for by a completely different person.  Their fussiness could very well be due to this as much as from their wanting to be with you instead of the nanny.  Today is a brand new day (and tomorrow), my guess is your twins are already less fussy as they get used to their new nanny.  I do think though that you have to pick and choose when to be involved.  If your twins are used to feeding just with you, you may need to leave the room to let the nanny take care of this.  Sleep may or may not be an issue, I don't see how play would be.  FYI my daughter's nanny and I sleep trained her at the same time and while my daughter would self soothe to sleep with me, she refused with the nanny.  Finally, I accompanied the nanny when she put my daughter to bed a couple times and voila! after that, my daughter would self soothe with the nanny, too.  Parents' involvement is not always the negative that some nannies like to make it out to be.[/quote]

I agree. I think it would be a little weird to leave the baby with someone new all day all of a sudden if you had a choice not to. Any change in caretaking may result in some fussiness, and the whole first year is full of changes to nap needs, food needs, teething pain, etc.. You have no idea why the babies are fussy, and they will adjust, and then be fussy again in a few weeks.[/quote]

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