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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why have the outings become so rare? Is it the third child? I would ask about this. This seems odd.

Your 4-year-old may not have "forgiven" her for the 6-week break yet, and may be testing to see if she will still want to be with him.

Another thing is that after 6 weeks of vacation, she just may be discovering that she's burnt out on the job.

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Yes, she says that the third child (the 1 yo) keeps them at home a lot.  However, when my younger child was with the prior share, she just got put into a stroller and out they all went went.  So I'm confused as to how a very experienced nanny cannot handle getting the three of them out of the house.  And when they do go out - it is no longer to grand adventures (i.e a new park, the zoo, etc) but only to our local parks within a 5-8 block radius.  Not sure how to approach this though without sounding insulting.

I am worried that your third point is the truth -- that after vacation she realized how burnt out she is with the job.  If this is the case, am I (and the kids) just stuck enduring until our contract ends?[/quote]

Actually, no, though you have some uncomfortable conversations in the near future otherwise.

It may be that the problem in the nap schedule for the 1-year-old, especially if that child's parents don't want him/her to sleep on the go. If that's the case, that's an issue you'll need to take up with the share family. The only way to know, though, is to say what you said here: "Larla, you say that the 1 year old keeps you home a lot, but ...".

Part of your 4-year-old's problem is that he's likely bored at home all day with babies, day-in and day-out, so some of his behavior problems are on her. You need to have that conversation, too.

Finally, you need to bring up the elephant in the room -- is she burnt out/overwhelmed? Can she pretend to be the nanny she used to be? Give her some time to fix it. If she can't, this would be firing for cause.

And take this as a bit of a lesson -- a three month notice period is ridiculous. As soon as you tell her, in October, that you aren't renewing her contract in December, she's going to be even less motivated to step it up.[/quote]

No! I'm a MB who has been through several nannies of our own over the last 6 years (we moved, they moved ...). I could have sworn I read the three-month notice period -- did you post it in another thread?

I hadn't thought about the pregnancy possibility, either. That's another reason to have a conversation before you decide to fire her or tough it out. All of these possibilities have different solutions.[/quote]

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