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[quote=Anonymous]I am planning to leave my current nanny position (of one year) within the next eight weeks. My employers are aware of this, and the driving factor is unrelated to the job itself. My original plan was to secure a new position (outside the nanny field) first, and then give a formal three week notice. Current plan is not to replace me as one parent plans to stay home (also has been the plan since I was hired…just thought it would be another year).

For the past few months my relationship with the oldest child (4) has been deteriorating. This child can be very challenging. I am not new to working with challenging children, and typically enjoy doing so. Part of why I was hired is due to this experience. However this is the first time I have encountered a child who truly seems to have come to resent my presence. I have tried to find any and all opportunities to praise her and connect with her, but she seems unaffected by my efforts. I catch her glaring at me numerous times each day. All kids have their moments of being angry with adults, but this is at a new level for me.

Over the last couple months she has made subtle remarks to me several times each week about how she wishes it was a "mommy daddy not, not a nanny day." Her outright defiance with me is crazy…again I have extensive experience with challenging children in private homes and classrooms so I am not easily phased. All the usual tricks and trying numerous new ones have failed. For the past two weeks she has been outright telling MB she doesn't want me here as soon as I walk in the door every morning. She increasingly chooses to just go to her room or another room to get away. I have come to dread going to work each morning.

Part of me just wants to hand in my formal notice either tomorrow or the beginning of next week so that I can breathe knowing that the unpleasantness will end in three weeks. The other part of me says she is just a kid going through an even more challenging phase than her normal challenging behavior and I should stick to my plan to find a new job first (hopefully sooner rather than later). It has been obvious to me for 4-5 months that she and I are not the best fit for each other, but I am a great fit with the other kids in the house (compounds the issue).

Any words of wisdom on how to approach this? [/quote]

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