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[quote=Anonymous]There are 4 types of parenting styles based on research.

Authoritive: setting expectations for children, allowing them to work through problems, consequences that reflect behavior whether negative or positive. Being active in your child's life beyond home. Open communication. (This has proven to be most effective for raising a member of society that will be able to contribute)

Authoritarian: very strict. More of a "because I said so" style. Little explanation of punishments. Very high expectations with little wiggle room. Riding the child

Permissive: little follow through in order to avoid conflict, never wanting to upset the child. Walking on egg shells. May redirect but not serious about it. Overlooking things. Rewarding negative behavior. No consequences given. More of a "as long as they are happy it's ok" attitude despite all else. Very free spirited

Neglective:  not involved with the child outside of home. Child left to own devices often. Don't know much of child's life outside of home i.e. Barely knows teachers names, what's going on with the kid homework is unknown. Often left with caregivers or alone etc. no communication

Is it important for parents to be aware of this? Do you all feel that parents should be aware of what style they adhere to, own it and express it with future nannies to make sure the nanny has a style that matches or at least what to expect? Granted most parents would like to think they are authoritive when they may very well be other than that. A lot of times parenting styles will reflect the opposite of how the grandparents raised them. Say very authoritarian people may end up with grandchildren that have permissive parents because they are trying to compensate.

Sometimes it may be embarrassing to look at which category you fit in in order to make sure your nanny will be on the same page. But is this something that matters to you all? Parents that are very strict may not want a permissive nanny that feels as long the kid isn't killing anyone everything is fine and so forth so nanny doesn't set boundaries or expectations.

What do you all feel about this?[/quote]

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