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[quote=Anonymous]Afternoon all. So I have been with my family for a few months now. They are really nice people and fair employers that pay well and treat me well. We have a good relationship. However they do have behavioral issues with ds who is about to turn 4 in a couple of months. He just refuses to listen to them. If I had to describe their relationship with their son it would be like he views them as older roommates that have no authority. He isn't like this with me and listens well when we are home or out other than usual things in that age.

I notice as we bond and get closer he is getting more comfortable with testing boundaries which can be expected. It either happens at the beginning or after a closeness has formed. I am not there a lot with them but see how he is with his parents occasionally. I do have issue with one thing though. Mb clearly ignores his disrespectful behavior and tries her best to overlook it. I agree when she ignores his acting out for attention in the background. But lately when we are having a discussion about the day or anything he will come up and began telling us, the adults to "shh" or be quiet because he is talking and he uses a very authorities tone. I acknowledge it and say no thank you, please wait we are talking etc but she does nothing? Like she believes it's normal for children to tell grown ups to stop talking.

I'm wondering if this is because I'm his nanny or if she would do this with anyone. Like for instance if she is conversing with his teachers and he did it or with a neighbor or friend. It really struck me as odd that she did not tell him that it's not ok to shh adults etc. and sometimes when he begins to do what he pleases because he knows I'm leaving she just tells him to stop but never physically intervenes and so her words just go into the air like they are never said and he carries on. It's usually things I've redirected him from earlier in the day. Like eating desserts as he feels, plugging up the toaster and stuffing it with bread, climbing on things, throwing outside balls inside and knocking down items and so forth. Like he wants me to see he can do it with them.

I really hate that I like them so much but at the same time I'm wondering if this delayed red flag is a good reason for me to start back looking and get out of here. [/quote]

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