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[quote=Anonymous]We had an AP who had "no idea" how our car was damaged.  His comment was that "someone must have hit it."  When I showed him that it was clear that our car did the hitting, not something else hitting us, he then insisted that the car had been stolen and someone had crashed it and then returned it to the same spot where he had parked it at a party.  It took two full days and four conversations, including our sitting him down and asking him several times to try to remember, etc, for him to come clean that he had done it.  Sometimes good APs make bad choices and don't tell the truth.  It's really disappointing, but it is what it is.

Honestly, OP, her lack of concern would irk me the most.  She has had the benefit of the car all year.  If she hadn't been responsible, I feel like she would have been very anxious to make sure that you understand that she didn't do it.  The checked out response would drive me batty.

Depending on the relationship you have had all year and what kind of an AP she has been, you have a few choices:

1) Sit her down and tell her that this is the car she drives, that this damage happened on her watch, and that she needs to pay half the cost of the repair
or
2) No more personal use of the car because you can't incur anymore expenses on it 
or
3) Suck it up and say that she has been a good Ap (if she has been) and that this is sometimes the cost of having an AP

Only you know the full of your relationship, so only you can decide what is the right approach.  Me, I would not have an AP in my house who was so cavalier about the car she exclusively drives being damaged.  I would be having a sit-down with ehr about the attitude, let alone the dent.

Good luck.[/quote]

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