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[quote=Anonymous]I have two cars. One I drive exclusively, and one that my AP uses exclusively. She uses it mostly for off-time driving, but also drives kids to/from school and to their father on his days.  That's it for on-duty.

She has two weeks left before she leaves.
Earlier in her year, she caused damage to my car by not noticing that the rear passenger door was all the way open before backing out of the garage. 
She can be oblivious, not situationally-aware and very unemotional.

She uses the car a lot in her off time and lately has been taking my bike on a bike rack to the trail to ride in her off time.

Yesterday, when I arrived home, I saw a baseball sized dent in the tailgate door below the license plate, but above the bumper.  Noticeable, but not impactful to the car. There were no scratches or other paint around the area...and it looked a bit too far in to be a bump from another car.

I went inside and asked her what happened to the car. She didn't know what I was talking about, so we went to the garage and looked. She did not seem to know what happened or what caused the bump. When we put the bike rack on the car, it *seemed* to line up with the bump, but not exactly.

We talked about possibilities, but nothing seemed to really click. I asked if she noticed this before but she said no. I asked my son, who is 10.5 if he saw this before, and he said the day before he did not see it. He often opens the tailgate to get his helmet for his bike or skateboard, which are carried around sometimes in the car.

My AP drives fast, and I can totally see her driving fast over the speedbumps with the bike rack and bike on the back which might bounce and could have caused this, maybe.

I had the dent estimated and the lowest estimate is $700.

I am unsure what to do. No one knows how or when it happened. While it is possible that another car hit it, she said that she parked away from cars yesterday and the spot doesn't seem like it would be a spot that a car would hit.  She didn't get it while on duty, because the kids would have told me if something happened.

She seemed really unemotional and non-remorseful about the whole thing during the whole review.  Almost flippant..don't care, its not my car. After we looked at it, she went back to her room as usual...no emotions. She is prepping for her travel month and has already checked out.

I don't think she KNEW what happened because she isn't very observant or careful

An evil part of me thinks she is holding back the truth because she has no money and it's all spent on her travel month, new phone and latest purchases.

It will be a hassle to fix it, but after she leaves I head to the beach for a week, so I could drop it off without much issue. I could forgive it and eat the cost or not fix it, but that leaves a bad taste in my mouth that she takes no responsibility...which she hasn't expressed at all, for this or even her other accident!

If I ask her to pay for some of it, I come off mean ...taking her travel month money (which she hasn't been saving for, and is borrowing some from parents), and making her pay for something I am not sure she caused, but suspect she did.  Maybe not ask for $500, but maybe $350 (half of the lowest estimate)?

WWYD?

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