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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I worked for a family about a year. Once the baby was about 14 months mb told me that she wanted to put him in preschool to socialize even though I was told when I accepted the position that it would be more than likely 2+ years. They knew I was looking for a family to grow with. I loved the baby and still care but honestly the mb was so draining and wasn't the best employer. She worked from home and in the beginning micromanaged me, which I wasn't  surprised but just so many things annoyed me. [b]She began taking advantage and leaving the kitchen in a mess from the previous evening knowing that I needed the space and because I'm not petty I'd load things up in the dw.[/b] Did it a couple of times to be nice next thing I knew it happened a few times per week and if db came home she'd try to hurry to do it herself. She was always in my business and treating me like a little sister [b]giving unsolicited relationship/ financial advice[/b]. Walked around saying weird things like "the baby is starting to look like you more than me". Never wanted to give sick days, only paid half my salary when THEY didn't need me. I'd come in on Monday and she had a container running over with pumping materials and dirty bottles for ME to wash by hand. Had me hang dry every piece of clothing for her sons (now according to her they just dry everything) there were times when we would be having a sweet moment and she'd pass through and smile then go in her room and text me passive aggressive things like "please put a fresh outfit on ds. *smiley face*" Accused me of taking pictures because I wanted to upload them to SM even though I'd told her I didn't even use fb etc. [b]she began having me get personal groceries, pickup dry cleaning, take relatives visiting to different places etc. [/b] It became a nightmare! There were so many times that they had both sides of the family in town that I never had anywhere in the house to go with my charge. Whenever I would have the oldest, who was always crying about something, she would undermine me and poke her I. To see what was wrong with him. Her family treated me like family and her in laws really didn't care for her much so they would talk to me ALL OF THE TIME. I got along great with her mom and she seemed jealous. Whenever her husband would be home and in the same room as me she seemed jealous. She was just petty as hell. Somehow I was resilient and made it work and we even got along. When she told me they'd be evening my work agreement early she acted like it was no big deal. I thankfully found a great family and realized I was extremely underpaid the entire time.  Fast forward and she gets pregnant and has not stopped texting me and calling me for advice. She is trying to final another nanny but I know she wants me back. Even before she had the 3rd baby she would text me here and there trying to make me come visit. I hadn't seen them since a few months after I left and [b]took the kids Easter baskets full of gifts[/b]. But after that visit I was ok to move on. She will text me things like "would you like to come see the kids this weekend?" Or " can you meet us at the park after you're done one day, the boys would love to see you". As if my time off of work should be spent with them. Last week she sent pic of the newborn and tried to set something up. It was my bday weekend and I was celebrating. I told her maybe Sunday. Sunday arrived and I woke with dread. Her parents are in town and frankly I just didn't want to deal with all of the people and remarks hinting for me to come back and how the other nannies they've hired/fired had quit don't compare. I am afraid that if I keep communicating with her I may just tell her what I really think of them as far as employers. She really has no clue why she can't find keep or find a quality provider. Calls them lazy when [b]really I just liked to stay busy so did a lot. I even decorated their Christmas tree lol.[/b] But I feel guilty and can't figure how to stop this without feeling like a b!tch. Whenever we speak snarky things she's said play in my mind like " I don't feel right saying " my nanny" people may think I'm snobby" like she looked down on the profession. It's just weird. [/quote]

if you don't want unsolicited relationship advice, don't talk about your relationship.
if you want to have sick days and guaranteed hours, you need to ask for it during the interview process. 
if you don't want to run errands, find a polite way to say it isn't part of your agreed upon job description.
if you don't want to text with her as often, then don't respond to her texts immediately. 
Why did you bring the kids Easter baskets full of gifts? Completely unnecessary.
It's your birthday weekend. Why did you agree to go visit with them?

Be an adult. If you don't want to visit with them when she asks, tell her that day/weekend doesn't work for you.

You complain about things like dishes and running errands, yet you say you like to stay busy and you decorated their Christmas tree. That's very contradictory. 
The my nanny/snobby comment sounds like it's all in your head. Same with her "jealousy" over you when her husband is in the room.

I agree with the PP. You need paragraphs.[/quote]

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