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[quote=Anonymous]I've been with my current NF for 15 months, their daughter turns 2 in May. I've had many detailed, frank discussions with MB regarding how long they intend to keep me on full time, and when they intend to put DD in preschool (MB is 43, conceived DD using IVF, and said they will not be trying for another). She has always said they plan to keep me on full time until Fall 2017, and enroll DD in preschool 3-4 full days per week at that time (and MB or DB or grandma would take care of her on non preschool days). I brought up this time line most recently in early February, to tell MB that my husband and I are planning to move out of state to be closer to his family, but we will be planning our move for next year, and are specifically planning our move around the timeline MB had given me, so I could finish out with them as planned, staying until DD starts preschool that fall.

Well, I showed up to work yesterday, and MB told me they would be letting me go 30 mins early (I have guaranteed hours, so still get paid for the time), so she could take DD, with DB, to the nearby preschool for a tour. I asked if they were already enrolling for Fall 2017, and she said she didn't think so, but "last night I spoke to [my best friend] who told me I should check it out and consider enrolling DD part time this Fall so she doesn't fall behind." I pointed out that I do a lot of learning based activities with DD, I've been teaching her colors, letters, numbers and counting, shapes, weekdays, months, seasons, animal life cycles, patterns, etc, as well as introducing her to sign language and Spanish language basics. We have play dates with her two little friends every week, and every day we go out, we go to the park, library story time, museums, the zoo, the pool, etc, so she gets lots of peer interaction, and opportunities for new experiences and real world learning every day. I told her that of course in the end it is her decision, but I just felt surprised to be hearing that after she's been telling me for so long (and recently!) that she would be waiting until 2017.

MB told me yesterday that they're "just thinking about it," and they "would probably only enroll her a couple mornings per week, so we could probably still keep you on full time." When I asked if that meant that she would add duties to fill the time while DD is in preschool, like running errands or meal prep, she said that "wouldn't be necessary." At first I took it at face value, but now I'm wondering if she meant they'd still keep me "full time" but reduce my hours while DD is at school, or try to swap school hours for date night hours...who knows. I asked MB this morning how the preschool tour went, and she said something about she and DB are still "figuring it out," and left for work abruptly. We had my one year review at the end of January, and MB and DB couldn't stop gushing about how happy they've been with my performance and care of their daughter, so I don't think it's a case of them starting preschool because they're unhappy with me.

What do you think? Should I start interviewing with other families now? Or should I wait and ask her what they decided regarding preschool in a few more weeks (or a couple months)? I really love this family and I thought we had a great rapport; I don't want to leave them but I feel so confused right now, and although I think there's some truth to the statement that they're still figuring it out, it does feel like they're not being totally honest with me right now.[/quote]

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