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[quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised by the responses you're getting. I'm rather introverted, and once I get the kids down for bed, I am not up for late night socializing with AP and it is not an issue at all. Both of our APs have wanted their own time to do things - call family & friends back home, go to the gym, meet up with friends, study for class, apply for whatever programs they're hoping to get into back home after the year is over, etc etc etc.

Here's a typical week for us: 
M-Th, AP works 10 hrs/day. When I get home and do the hand off, we quickly check in on plans for the evening. Most nights, AP will be home & eat with us. Some nights she'll have plans. Then she goes off to her room and either joins us for dinner to proceeds with her evening.

On Fridays, AP usually sleeps half the day, might join us for one meal.

Saturday & Sunday - AP tends to join us half the meals over the weekend, might join us for grocery shopping, and will definitely join us for a trip into town and any weekend road trips. If she doesn't have any social plans, she's likely to sit & chat with us for an hour at some point over the weekend. With one of the APs, I used to invite her to join me for manicures because I enjoyed her company and we had similar interests. New AP isn't into that stuff and has more of her own friends, so she's out & about, not around often enough for me to invite her to the salon.

As you can see, the total amount of time spent socializing with AP is not huge. She's part of the family in the sense that she's welcome to join in any family activities, but she's also free to opt out, which she does for at least half the time. There's very little one-on-one hand-holding once you get settled in. There will be a lot of errands in the beginning - getting her a bank account, SSN, registered at the local community college, a local DL, and showing her around the neighborhood, but that's just the beginning - it's not for the whole year. [/quote]

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