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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP - Thought it might help to hear some advice from someone who pushed through a full year with an AP that sounded very similar to your situation.  From an outside perspective, what you're doing here is choosing your AP's feelings and your preference for avoiding conflict over your children's happiness and needs.  Been there done that.  Your children are not happy, they are repeatedly expressing that you are leaving them with someone who obviously doesn't like them.  The very fact that she turns around the monitor is reason enough for me that she is not doing her job and knows it.

Please do not continue this year.  I know it's easier to just go along with it and be miserable for six months, but it will have long-lasting implications, trust me.  You will be miserable, your children will be spending a significant portion of their lives with someone who obviously would rather do anything other than engage with them.  My marriage even suffered because we were all so miserable.

You are not happy.  Your kids aren't happy.  Doesn't sound like your AP is that happy either.  Just end it.  Don't be swayed.  Give her a fine review so that she can hopefully continue out her year elsewhere.  You will feel like a giant weight has lifted when she leaves your home.  I promise.  I still feel like I have PTSD from that year.[/quote]

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