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[quote=Anonymous]Nanny here.  I see the following problems:

1. [b]we have a nanny who seems to think she can say whatever is on her mind, at first I welcomed her confidence but now it is becoming A) Annoying and B) overkill. [/b]You don't state what she's saying, but it sounds like she's giving unwanted advice.  Unless she feels that what you want her to do is detrimental to the children, she needs to stop.  Offering unsolicited advice is always a balancing act.
2. [b]She came highly recommended from one of my friends who used her as a date night sitter and knew we would need a new nanny who understood what's it like to work for professionals who have a demanding and unpredictable schedule,[/b] If your schedule is that unpredictable, you need a live-in nanny who is paid extra to be available as needed.  What you do for a living irrelevant.  You also accepted a reference for a full-time or part-time nanny from someone who knows nothing about how she is as a nanny, instead employing her as an occasional sitter.  The needs are completely different.  What did her other references say about her (specifically the references that had her work positions similar to your position)?
3. [b]it is important that we limit tv, she thinks it's fine to let them watch tv whenever she deems appropriately, [/b]Professionals don't park kids in front of the television unless the parent said that it's an acceptable reward.
4. [b]as well as limiting her budget when she goes out with the kids. We let her spend a good amount but she seems to push over the encouraged limit (400) and makes remarks about how we are not hurting for money and kids are happy, so we should just let it be.[/b]  Her comments are out of line. Is the $400 for one week, two weeks, one month, 3 months, 6 months, a year?  Without knowing how long it's supposed to last, we can't say whether it's low, normal or generous.  Regardless, she knows there's a budget and doesn't seem to care.  There are plenty of activities and things to do with kids which are cheap or free.
5. [b]On top of this, we plan to take vacation (she gets two weeks of her choosing) and one of the weeks is our choosing due our busy schedules, well this did not work for her and she let us know why and basically reminded us like we don't know how hard it is for schedule too. [/b] If your contract reads two weeks of her choosing, you can't pick one of those weeks.  If your contract reads 2 weeks of her choosing and one week of your choosing, you get to say when your week is, and it doesn't matter if it's convenient for her.
6. [b]Apparently our nanny made it know to our occasional sitter that she has this job because she likes kids, and does not need it as her husbands takes care of her and if concerns arise she is not afraid to set her foot down and get her way.[/b] This is completely unprofessional.  Yes, nannies vent.  That's what anonymous forums and locked facebook pages are for.  However, nannies also need to keep in mind that they never know who knows their employer.  And if you have anything in your contract about confiendtiality or disparaging you, she broke it.
7.  [b]We give her the weekends off, and let her go early with pay if we get home.[/b]  I'm a bit confused by this.  You give her weekends off?  Normal schedule is Monday through Friday, and weekends are extras, not bonuses to the nanny.  And if she's available to work, but you get home early, it's not fair to penalize the nanny for sending her home early, so yes, paying her for all scheduled hours is expected (again, not a perk).
8.[b] She can take the kids anywhere, we gave her a card to use and reimburse for mileage [/b]These aren't perks either, mileage reimbursement is required unless it's your vehicle and your gas.  You pay for all activities that your kids do, and while it's great that she's allowed to take them anywhere, it's still your responsibility to pay.
8. [b]occasionally give her random gifts, especially when she does a great job with the kids. [/b]Well, this is a perk.  Kudos!

Overall, it sounds like your expectations are just a hair off, and she's very entitled and unprofessional.  Cut her loose, look for a professional nanny, but be willing to pay top dollar if you need lots of hours and on call.[/quote]

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