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[quote=Anonymous] I have been working with this family since the twin girls were born 4 1/2 months ago.  Mom and I get along really well, both personally and in terms of professional communication.  Well the dad I think likes me and is appreciative of the job that I do for his family, I find that communicating with him really stresses me out. He is definitely very type a detail oriented, and we often have situations in which I feel like he wants me to agree with him, but also wants to show respect for my opinion, which is sometimes legitimately different.

We are on the same page about all of the big stuff, so these are all conversations where I would be absolutely fine just capitulating and doing whatever it is that he wants me to do.  But he asks me for my opinion, I explain it the best way that I can, he then asks me lots of follow-up questions in what I feel is a very aggressive tone and   I tend to feel sort of cornered.  At that point, I usually say something along the lines of "if you don't feel that my approach is right, then I am happy to do something different. Just tell me what you want me to do."  He always replies that he doesn't want to overfill me because he respects my opinion and my experience and that he wants my guidance, and then we go back through him asking lots and lots of questions that I'm not sure exactly how to answer.  I think maybe he is just one of those people who likes to process things verbally by talking through all of the options, but I find the whole process anxiety inducing, and I'm not sure what I could say or do that is helping the process, but in the meantime is stressing me out.

First, has anyone had a situation like this with a parent, or if you are a parent do you ever find yourself communicating this way, and second any tips on how to break out of this cycle? What we are doing now is really not working. [/quote]

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