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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL had two boys one year apart.  Then 7 years after the oldest boy was born, she had twin girls.  She said it was easier with the twins when they were little vs. the two boys one year apart, because the twins were on the same nap schedule, same potty training schedule, etc. [/quote]

21.22 here.  I've worked with twins and with several singletons in one family.  When kids are on different nap schedules, it's much more difficult.  Additionally, it's easier to find activities that work for twins than for 2-4 kids who are all at least a year apart.[/quote]
Not for me.[/quote]

So who do you prioritize, the infant who needs a morning and afternoon nap, or the toddler who is supposed to be in an activity?[/quote]
The same way that any intelligent responsible parent does. Neither child needs to suffer neglect. I take it you don't have your own children.[/quote]
Just because a child isn't neglected doesn't mean that child is getting the best of care.  "Isn't neglected" is not a good standard of nanny care.

Additionally, the setup of nanny care is different from two siblings in a family and the same rules do not apply because children do not share the same bond.   The cost-benefit equation is different.  Will I cart my infant along to the older child's swim lesson? Sure. She can nap in her carseat by the poolside. It's her brother, she can roll along for him.  Will I tell the older child to be quiet in his playroom because his sister is sleeping? Sure. It's his sister. He can roll along for her.

But do I want my infant carted along with some other random child who isn't a sibling? Do I want my older child shushed and limited because some other random infant who isn't his sibling is napping?  Nope. Not happening, and not paying for this, either. Not when so many same-age options without these headaches are available. [/quote]
Like I said, I know a number of parents of twins who've told me, no one chooses two same-ages babies, but you hopefully(!) learn to do what you have to do. It's a hard road to juggle two babies at the same time. [/quote]

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