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[quote=Anonymous]I have been with my current nanny family going on about four years this January. In this time, things have been going very well.

Last month, my DB invited me to come along with them on a five day trip to CA over Spring Break '16. He told me that all expenses would be covered and that it would be much needed fun, 24/7.

Then the next day he purchased my airline ticket and told me about it.

Sounds perfect right??

Since then, I have told them often I appreciate them inviting me and that I would be willing to help out any way I can. [i]Words to live by....[/i]

For the past month, I was asked to housesit for MB's local sister for two weeks. I cared for two pitfalls (fed them, cleaned up their waste, bathed them and walked them.) The house was out of food, so I had to purchase my own food. She also left me some errands to perform. I had to mail 3 packages at the UPS store, pick up some library books on hold, pick up her medications at the pharmacy & drop off/pick up her dry cleaning work uniforms as well.
I just [u]assumed[/u] I would be paid a little something, a daily stipend for housesitting (my NF pays me $40/day when I house sat for them), but I wasn't paid a dime.

Most recently, my NF took a mini-trip for a long weekend and I had to stop by to feed the dogs, water the plants, pick up the mail and check the front porch for expected packages. Normally they have paid me for this, this time they did not.

I casually mentioned to MB's other sister who I know a little better how generous the family was offering me the trip, all expenses paid in full. I told her I was very grateful for the experience since I have never been to CA. Or any other state.
She then mentioned..."Oh...You [b]WILL[/b] be helping out A LOT with the kids so don't expect a free ride here."

Basically my question is, When someone offers you a free trip, on their dime and you accept graciously, is it just a given that you are to do free favors for them in return since they have extended this wonderful opportunity for you? Meaning work for free until then?
Or:

Should I have been told upfront that extra things would be expected of me?

It seems as if they are assuming I will do them free favors in return which I honestly wouldn't have minded had they told me upfront. What bothers me now is the basic assumption that I will do it, plus not knowing what else will be expected of me prior and during our trip.

I wish I could back out now, I hate feeling like I am indebted to them for their kindness. I am grateful that they are taking me, but in all honesty I would prefer not to go if their are terms and conditions involved.

However I feel stuck now since my plane ticket has been purchased.

Please advise me honestly here, no mean responses. I have been worried sick over this.  :cry: [/quote]

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