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[quote=Anonymous]I had this happen with one charge.  I started with 2 siblings, an 8 year old boy and an 11 year old girl.  When I told the parents he was bullying his sister, they said that I was overreacting and it was just sibling squabbles.  When he started being verbally abusive to his sister (later in the week, also to me), they said that he was stressed in school.  When he started hitting and kicking his sister, I moved in between the children to protect the medically fragile child, and their response was that I escalated the issue.  The last day I was there, I told them as soon as they got home that he kicked my kneecap and screamed that he was trying to break my knee, so I sat on the floor with him in an immobilizing hug for an hour while he tried to calm down.  I quit, and then they tried to tell me that I was abusive to their son.  Sorry, no, I'm trained to work with special needs kids to restrain them to that they can't hurt anyone (including themselves).  Of course I don't use them as a reference, last I knew they couldn't keep new nannies more than 2 weeks because all of them are too strict for their "sensitive" son.

On the other hand, I've dealt with charges who were borderline abusive when I started, but I was hired to fix behavior issues.  As long as the parents and I are all consistent and using the same methods, it works wonderfully.

If you aren't comfortable disciplining the child because the child reacts violently, you aren't effective anymore.  It doesn't mean you aren't a wonderful nanny, it just means that this child needs someone else.  If the parents aren't doing anything, it's unlikely anyone else could do much to change the child's behavior, but there's no way you will be able to do it.  I'm sorry and I hope you find a better family soon![/quote]

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