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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I disagree with the PP who said you are micromanaging to approve every activity.  My DC is 2 so perhaps that explains my different perspective, and we do have standard activiteis that DC does each week which don't need approval every time as they are recurring.  It is also ok with me for the nanny to take DC to the library without my pre-approval (other than regular story time) provided she texts me when they leave and when they get out.  Basically, if they are further away than walking distance I want to know when they left and when they return in case of an emergency and I need to get to DC quickly.  It isn't micromanaging, its being a parent.[/quote]

NP, and I have to disagree. I don't think it is unreasonable to have activities cleared by you, at least the first time, and you should of course have a general idea where your nanny takes your kids and how they spend their day. However I feel like if you hire a nanny whose judgement you trust, who you communicate with well, and who you can get in contact with easily during the day, expecting a text when they leave and return from every little thing is micromanaging. Its something my mom did when I was 11 and staying home alone after school for the first time, not something you do to a grown woman. OP should ask for a heads up for new activities and activities that cost money, and she should be talking to her nanny about what they are doing on a daily basis. [/quote]

That's not micromanaging for a 2 year old charge.  A 2 year old has a nap schedule and needs more of a routine than an 11 year old.  If you are still doing that when your child is 11 and DC is by him or herself, it's not micromanaging, because you are teaching the children to be safe and yet giving them the freedom to explore and become more independent.  A nanny with an 11 year old charge is far different from either of those situations, and it is micromanaging.  However, the nanny is 19, so doesn't have much experience.  She might not realize that the children isn't getting enough time for homework or decompression.[/quote]

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