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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please give your employers the chance to manage this (if you like the job otherwise.)

I'm an MB and our kids have three sets of grandparents, all of whom live far enough away that when they come to visit they are here for several days.  (6 weeks is another issue - I can't even imagine!)

My husband and I put limits on the amount of time grandparents can stay, we put limits on the amount of time they should expect to spend with the kids during the day, we set up activities for the nanny to do with the kids (and without grandparents) and we VERY explicitly manage things to minimize the nightmare for the nanny.

We make sure she (the nanny) knows that she is in charge - period - and that she is answerable only to us, not any grandparent.  We are very direct with the grandparents in telling them that they are secondary to maintaining the kids' routine, that they must defer to the nanny's care and authority with the kids, and that they - no matter how delightful they may be (or think they are) are a difficult thing for a nanny to manage.  We make it non-negotiable.

There is one MIL that fights us routinely on this and we have had to be a very united front.  We also work hard to make sure our nanny knows she can talk with us about this, that we are on her side, etc...

So give your employers a chance to rise to the occasion and at least know that they risk losing you if they can't manage this.  They will risk the same thing with anyone else they hire so if they're smart they'll fix it now so they can keep you.

Good luck.[/quote]

I wish I had employers like you.
Talked to MB and DB together tonight. DB didn't say much, but MB without saying so  made it clear she wasn't going to talk to her mother, basically made excuses for her. I'm hoping DB can reason with her.
If put my best into this job as always I am part of the reason their 6 month olds are STTN. I love these babies, but I cannot work without respect.
I'm sad.
I'm going to call the families that contacted me, but I'm really sad.[/quote]

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