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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] New AP literally never has a smile on his face when he is with DC, and DC has clearly picked up on that.  Sitting in my office with me while I work is boring to DC.  The fact that he is choosing that over playing with new(ish - been here three weeks) is telling because this has never happened before...usually DC prefers to play with his AP rather than sit near me.  
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Our old AP was like this, and I really regret subjecting my kids to her for an entire year.  I did it because she was very efficient, got a lot of things done, and wasn't actively mean to them.

But, in hindsight, her clear lack of appreciation for my kids really rubbed off on them.  They ended the year feeling badly about themselves.  Who wants to be left with someone who clearly doesn't really like you, and doesn't have any interest in you?

I think you also need to stop connecting the two APs.  What is done is done.  But you're comparing the two.  It's natural, but unfair.  Evaluate your new AP as an individual, knowing that the "new" AP always suffers by comparison when you've just had a great year with your last AP.  If he/she just really isn't into your kids, I'd consider a rematch.  That's a tough year.[/quote]

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