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[quote=Anonymous]You have two real options here, which is tell them now, or tell them shortly after the share starts (when exactly does the share start? I'd assume in the next few weeks?).

Obviously, the RIGHT thing to do is tell them NOW. I assume the reason you are hesitant to tell them now is that you need care between now and January, correct? I don't think you run too much risk of them kicking you out before then; that would likely violate the contract and they obviously need you and your share of the money to make it work.

Think about it like this: you are making plans for your child's care in January, that's about four months in advance. And how long have you been planning for the share? Also likely several months in advance. So you MUST know that giving them only two months notice really limits their options, as many parents who are looking for care in January and considering a nanny share are likely making those plans NOW.

And of course, finding another family for a nanny share is infinitely more difficult than just finding a nanny or a daycare: the kids have to be the right ages, they must be located nearby and have a similar parenting philosophy, and be on board with decisions like who will host, etc, the list goes on and on.

Also, giving notice near the holidays is a major disaster, in my twelve years of experience as a nanny, that is the absolute worst time to be looking for a new family (or a new nanny for that matter). Most people specifically plan early to avoid having to seek out a nanny or share family around Thanksgiving or Christmas; it's just not an ideal time.

To recap: If you tell them now, you don't run any real risk because you'll still receive the same care regardless. If you wait, you're only going to royally piss off both the nanny and share family. I don't see any really advantage to delay telling them the full truth, and I see a definite downside to it honestly. My advice is to tell them now.[/quote]

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