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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MB here.  I would sit her down for a direct conversation.

Tell her you want to touch base as you feel that you are not all working as well together as you would like.  Ask her if she feels that the job is working out well.  Ask her if she has any concerns or questions, etc...

Ask a few leading questions to try to get a sense of how she's feeling, what she's thinking, etc...  You may find she volunteers what you suspect (concern about cameras) or you may find there is something else entirely concerning her.  Then you can talk about whatever she raises, rather than guessing at what you think is a problem.

If she volunteers nothing, then you say "I'm concerned because I feel like you are not fully happy in the position.  I feel like you don't believe me when I tell you we don't have cameras.  Is that true? "  Then deal with that.

THEN, after that piece, you say something like "I want to make sure you and I know that we are honest and direct with each other.  Kids tell stories all the time - often true and often fabrication or some combination of truth and fiction.  So I want both you and I to know that we will be honest and fully informative about what happens with the kids when we're "on duty."  That means I tell you if they have been sick, or got hurt, or didn't sleep well, or whatever... And you tell me all the same things.  If we hear it from each other we don't have to worry about sifting truth from fiction out from the kids' stories (which is all I'm attempting to do when checking with you about something they've told me.)   ok?"

You definitely have a problem to address.  Whether it's simply miscommunication and hurt feelings that could be fixed with better communication, or you have a nanny who isn't trustworthy, isn't certain at this point.  But you need to address it - if you just let it fester it will poison the relationship and you'll be rehiring sooner than you prefer.[/quote]
Most parents don't want to be that transparent, in my experience.[/quote]

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