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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My employers are really good about doing whatever is best for their own long-term goals. They aren't staying up at night wringing their hands feeling "bad" about anything. What's wrong with all the good nannies here who aren't doing the same thing?[/quote]

Dont think they aren't staying up at night agonizing over things.  Ultimately, we have to do what's best for our family and in particular, our DS.  This has led to some reAlly difficult decisions in the past regarding childcare (the most difficult being a move and we knew dS' nanny of 3 years would not move with us).  We agonized over these decisions.  But I'm sure when we talked to the nannies, it didn't seem like we did because we'd rehearsed so many times what we were going to say. [/quote]
You're good. You rehearsed so many times what you'd say to the nannies? So they wouldn't know you were in agony about moving without them? I'm glad it worked for you.

Maybe nannies should first do a few rehearsals before telling you they're moving on. But why wouldn't you want to know about THEIR agony about doing what's best for THEM? [/quote]

Oh she knew we felt bad about it, but what I mean by rehearsing is that we knew what we were going to say so we didn't flub or have trouble discussing it. I did the same when i met with my boss to say I was leaving.  And yes, nannies should rehearse when they have to bring something up. Rehearsing means that you will be able to say what you need to say. It also learns the chance that your employer will take your agony and twist it in order to manipulate you.  We've had one nanny leave us because she decided to go back to school.  She was very professional when she met with us.  Yes, I Could tell she felt bad but she was also sure that what she was doing was best for her.

I agree with you that nannies need to do what's best for them. But like on any job, remaining professi mall is the best way to go about it

Yes yes I know.  I'm an employer therefore I'm an evil bitch and blah blah blah.  Thankfully we've had 2 long term nannies who we are still close to.  [/quote]
Why the sarcasm here? Do you have any idea how few parents make the effort to keep in touch with beloved former nannies? Today I received a thank you note from a former charge for remembering her birthday. Yes, I cried. All the birthdays I haven't remembered aren't because I've forgotten about a single charge I've taken into my heart over the years. I wonder how each and every one is doing today. Every. Single. Child. Can you understand that?[/quote]

You're clearly angry about something. You're taking it out on someone who does not deserve your anger though. [/quote]
I told you how uncommon it is for parents to keep in touch with former nannies.
Not sure what you're getting at. Please explain.[/quote]

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