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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, if you can't convince the mother to let you try something else then it's useless (and I'm the prior MB poster saying this.)

She is setting you up to fail.

You can tell her that in your experience a child who has never had a new caregiver needs help adjusting.  Right now, he does see something wrong in his well established world - there is a stranger invading it.  Let him experience some other change of pace and you will start seeming familiar.  If he has something new and different to focus on he'll forget about you being new.

If she won't hear that then you have to decide if you can stand it in the short term.  I'd really be tempted to say "I'm sorry, but if I'm unable to take him out of the apartment I don't think he is going to adjust quickly enough for me to help you.  Good luck."

I know I should be more sympathetic about parents who are this anxious, but I'm really not.  I think it does a real disservice to the kids to shelter them so fully.[/quote]

I appreciate your feedback. I have discussed getting out with him and go for a walk or to the park. She said no twice. I've tried talking with he about why we should but she is not comfortable with that as I'm new and the only daytime sitter he's had.

I think it would be fine if I were able to get him out of the house, but I can't change that. I'm going to be here until 4 and if it doesn't change at all, I'm telling them it won't work out. I feel bad but it's not helping him or me. Him being sick ( didn't know about prior to) and teething is adding greatly to his demeanor. This is just a sucky situation and MB's comments are making me question my competence as a nanny. Most of my experience is with babies I've had very young, but I've started with toddlers. The most they cried was 10-15 minutes and we were out the door or distracted. [/quote]

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