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[quote=Anonymous]Background: MB is 31 and has one child, a 9-month-old son whom we'll call Tommy. I've been their FT nanny since Tommy was a newborn. Mom is a great MB and her parenting style is very much in sync with what mine was when I was raising my kids (I'm 55), so we have developed a great trust and rapport.

MB: So now that little [9M] Tommy has six teeth we've been noticing a problem with him starting to bite on people when he is playing and gets over-excited and eager. Have you noticed this too?

ME: Yes he has just started doing it this week as far as I've noticed.

MB: Right, and I'm getting concerned that we need to nip it in the bud. I mean right now it's not a temper issue and it's not aggressive, he's just gets so hyped up with excitement and sinking his teeth into something is his way of expressing it.

ME: That's the way I see it and I can understand wanting to think of ways to nip it in the bud. Like, think of the near future when he's in preschool and if this is still a habit of his it's not going to be easy to make friends.

MB: Not to mention the hysteria of the parents whose kids are victims of Tommy's.

ME: O_o

MB: What have you been doing so far when he does it?

ME: I just instantly pull away and cover his mouth with my fingers and say "[b]no bite[/b]" while shaking my head and looking displeased.

MB: Yeah we do that too, but he just laughs! I think we need to change tactics and we have started doing something different now when he bites. We flick his cheek sharply with a thumb/forefinger and say "NO BITE" pretty aggressively and look angry while we do it. Some friends of ours tried this with they daughter and they said she never bit again, it worked the very first time they did it.

ME: Wow, did he cry?

MB: Yeah he cried, he was heartbroken! But we really have to get through to him that we're serious! In fact I wanted to let you know that it's OK with us if you start using this same technique. (chuckles) I mean of course not to leave marks or really hurt him or anything, but just enough to startle him and get his attention and see that we for sure don't like it. No one likes a biter and it's a lot easier to stop it early on rather than later.

What do you nannies/MBs think of this request and whether or not it would be appropriate for the nanny to comply?[/quote]

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