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[quote=Anonymous]The shadow day is part of the interview process. It's like being invited for a second interview. You effectively bowed out of the process, perhaps without realizing it, and tried to set the terms of how and when you're receive the offer. Negotiation isn't in your court until you have the offer. Until the family has chosen you, the ball is in their court.

You are, of course, free to take the approach of "this is how I do things, I don't do XYZ, I only do ABC" but, personally - I associate that attitude with daycare centers, where they have to take a cookie cutter approach because they are an institution, offering care that has to be replicated for several children and they can't possibly remember 12 different ways of doing things. But you are an individual and families hire nannies because they want tailored care. It's fine that you have boundaries, you should - like not mopping floors, for example. But if you start out in your first meeting with the family being all about how you do things and can not make an exception, well I'm going to assume the inflexibility only continues from there.

You're probably not that extreme, especially since you're being so reflective now, but I just share that to give you a sense of how it can come across to the people on the other side. The dad asked you five times and you declined five times. If I had seen that, I would have taken that as a red flag. It's not like he was asking you to do anything humiliating. They just wanted to see you interact with the kids. [/quote]

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