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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are looking for someone who practices positive parenting techniques and I'm very sensitive to language in particular.  I don't expect perfection but I hat phrases like "shake it off, you're ok".  I am fine not rushing over and "babying" if the child doesn't seem hurt but I firmly believe that if the child cries that it's important to offer a hug and a kiss and then ask, "are you okay?".  I'm afraid that I'm going to see one thing during an interview and the many will do another in practice.  We are very laid back about so many things in our life, but not when it comes to these things.  For instance, ds pulled all the tissues out of a box and the sitter just sat there and let him.  I told the sitter to please not let him do it to another box but it's not a big deal and moved on.  So we aren't crazy by any stretch but when it comes to language (and actions of course) I feel it's important in shaping a child.  Will I be perceived as difficult?  We just want to find the best match.  Any advice appreciated. [/quote]

I hate "shake it off" and "man up."  There is a big difference between being a helicopter parent/nanny and ignoring a crying child; it sounds to me like you have the right balance.

I'm extremely picky about the positions I accept, even for a trial period, because I know that my philosophies have to be similar to the parents' or it will never work.  I would suggest looking for a nanny who is asking questions, even in the initial contact.  See if she asks what discipline you use and if she's going to use the same (some parents want the nanny to do something different; weird...), pose a situation and see what she says she would do, but be careful not to let her know what you want done until after you hear her thoughts.  On one hand, many nannies can fit their childcare style to the parents' preferences, but it's so much better if the nanny and parents agree from the start, and unfortunately, many nannies will BS to get a very good position.[/quote]

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